If this past year has taught me anything valuable it’s this: you can do everything and will still find it impossible to chase after people who doesn’t want to be chased. You cannot pursue or go after people who keeps on running away from you.
And don’t tell me I’ve learned this from one fallen friendship. I’ve learned this from so many people that have graced their way into my life, only to leave after quite some time. I’ve learned this from so many people that have won my heart and attached my soul to theirs, only to leave like nothing happened, like it wasn’t such a big deal that I have invested so much of myself, my time, in them. I’ve learned this from so many people who built strong relationships with me, only to build stronger walls against me. I’ve learned this from so many people who walked in, only to walk out when things got tougher telling me that time could fix shit.
Let me tell you, it will hurt. It will hurt real bad. Like the world is breaking up with you and the waves are surging and you have no choice but to drown. It hurts. But one thing is for sure, you are firmer and greater than this. You’re resilient enough to pull yourself together and bold enough to let go. Let them go. I repeat, let them go. Remove the shackles and the chains and just allow them the space they need, allow them to fly.
Because if people want to stay in your life and you do too, then both of you will make an effort on trying to keep each other. Continue reading...